New Moon & Solar Eclipse in Libra Horoscopes
Sunk cost fallacy ☼ breakup season ☼ danger of neutrality
Hey witchy kids,
There’s talk of a new astrological “break up season” happening right now. If you find yourself at a make-or-break checkpoint in your relationships, that’s entirely expected. Give yourself some grace; eclipses are the in-between. A liminal space where we download whispers of what’s next; bombshells are dropped and feelings are faced. This is a time of revelations, disruption, downloads… The day you receive the source material is not the day you take the test. As much as it pains Libra to be stuck in periods of indecision, a deeper truth is percolating in each of our lives that we need quiet and silence to answer. Such is the gift of a New Moon. Under a dark sky, we return to self.
Kick all the extra cooks out of the kitchen and decide what’s on the menu in your own life.
Indecision is one of the most painful human experiences; I don’t believe we’re hardwired to stay in prolonged periods of inaction or confusion. The longer we do, the greater risk we have of falling for the sunk cost fallacy.
Sunk cost fallacy is the fear that it’s too late to change course. The passive decision to remain exactly as you are, because you believe you’ve invested too much time, energy, and resources into this current path or relationship to go off and change it now.
It highlights the danger of staying neutral, when you’re actually meant to have skin in the game.
Imagine a corporate exec who has sunk 22 years into their career. They’re up for a huge promotion. Everyone is proud of them. The only problem is they’ve fallen out of love with that job. They are desperate for deeper fulfillment. But it’s the only thing on their résumé. The only industry they’ve ever known. They stay on course because the investment that brought them to that point, is too great to justify starting fresh.
This is what we want to avoid.
Where in your life are you at risk of a sunk cost fallacy?
It’s not about which relationships you’re leaving; it’s about which ones you are actively choosing. This is a reminder to take a step back so you can hear your own voice again.
The highroad of Libra is the art of decision-making, discernment, deliberation. Contingencies, adjusted for various outcomes, factoring in the feelings and needs of everyone around you…
But there’s a saying in the south when you try to make a situation seem better than it is; it’s like putting lipstick on a pig. Libra holds the reality of who we are and what we could be, on a razor edge. The burden of this awareness can manifest as indecision or the strain to keep up appearances (pig, lipstick… you get it).
Libra carries both the wisdom and burden of nuance. They are cognitively aware of the impact of every decision rippling out in a butterfly effect; how a single word or choice could lead to thousand different outcomes. For this reason, “people pleaser“ and “indecisive“ are simplistic stereotypes that blur out their complexity.
Libra is still cardinal. Of the three astrological modes, this is the archetype of decision, leadership, initiation, changing seasons, and braving the unknown. Cardinal fire is courageous. Cardinal air is calculating. Cardinal water is caretaking. Cardinal earth is cultivating.
Initiation takes different shapes, elementally. Libra is air, the domain of the mind, which means every thought, outcome, and possibility must be explored before action can be taken.
Aries offers a natural counterbalance of blind courage. But if we were to rush in and out of every situation blindly, the world would be a hot mess. Put some respect on Libra! Where Aries is a hot blade, Libra is a gentle nudge. When Aries is the loudest voice in the room, Libra makes sure everyone gets a chance to speak.
It is a noble desire to seek win-wins. To never inflict damage or hurt. To leave every space kinder than you found it. But we must also examine the lengths we are willing to go to, to avoid discomfort.
Since April 2023, we’ve been karmically facing lessons around relationship fulfillment and self-actualization on the Aries-Libra axis. Consider signficant life events around these dates:
April 19, 2023: Solar Eclipse at 29° Aries
October 14, 2023: Solar Eclipse at 21° Libra
March 24, 2024: Lunar Eclipse at 5° Libra
April 8, 2024: Solar Eclipse at 19° Aries
October 2, 2024: Solar Eclipse at 10° Libra
March 29, 2025: Solar Eclipse at 9° Aries
An eclipse is not the right time to expect total clarity, closure, or answers. You’re not doing anything wrong if you feel more confused than ever.
What if confusion is fear that we cannot trust our intuition? What would you need from your closest relationships right now to feel safe showing up and naming your desire?
While New Moons mark beginnings, eclipses are still unpredictable… So instead of manifestation, let’s think integration. Ask it to reveal what relationship lessons you’re meant to begin applying since 2023.
The shadow integration of Aries and Libra are similar. Would you rather live with the consequence of action, Aries, or the regret of indecision, Libra?
This eclipse season carries an extra karmic punch if you have Aries and Libra in one of the angular houses: 1, 4, 7, or 10. Cardinal personal placements too! This eclipse season is penetrating the foundation of your life.
Journal: what has life revealed to me lately about how I prioritize my relationships? About the quality, reciprocity, and harmony of those relationships?
Locate the house of 10 degrees Libra in your birth chart
1st house: what role do your relationships play in the way you view yourself? In your own sense of identity and self-worth? Are there relationships in your life that negatively impact your personhood? Have relationships been revealed that make you feel seen and comfortable in your own skin? invite this eclipse to reveal which relationships feel most supportive, and with whom you are required to keep up a façade.
2nd house: to you, relationships are just as valuable as what you have in the bank. In many ways, the quality of company you keep determines your quality of life. The people you choose to value and invest in, can either drain your energy or add value to your life. This is particularly true with the relationship archetype in the house of tangible worth. Take extra stock in relationships that feel grounding and supportive, versus drain your resources.
3rd house: what are the relationships where you feel truly heard and understood? What is the relationship you have to your own voice right now? You might notice that you have a cold, sore throat, or lose your voice when you feel too indecisive to speak up. Your body may generate symptoms from a lack of self expression. Which relationships can you prioritize in the next six months that support, bolster, celebrate, and cultivate your voice and ideas? Sibling karma may be coming up right now as well.
4th house: did someone say family boundaries? What have you learned about your family dynamic in the past year and a half, and how have those lessons informed the space that family occupies in your life? Perhaps bridges have been built, fences mended… Or you’ve decided enough is enough, and stopped waiting for other people to change before prioritizing your own happiness and security. These next six months might require you to take more responsibility for how you want to feel at home and with family; to know the difference between compromise and concession.
5th house: which relationships make you feel fiery and confident? Is there anyone in your circle right now that sucks the life out of you? Makes you doubt your ability? Is unable to support your dreams, or see your vision? These next six months or an invitation to prioritize the relationships that allow you to Blossom, that support your endeavors, that give life and fresh energy to your projects and creative impulses. A fair karma could be coming up right now, since the shadow of the fifth house rules in Fidelity. Claim what you need instead of seeking the shadows to find it.
6th house: if you’ve been juggling an exhausting number of balls for the last year and a half, your body might finally be showing signs of wear and tear. You’ve done your best to be everything for everyone, the only problem is that that’s not your job. When you prioritize other people over yourself, your health suffers. If there are any mental or physical indications of this strain, consider that it is a karmically critical moment to start listening to what your body needs, even if it conflicts with your relationship obligations. Taking better care of your health and figuring out what relationships are taking too much from you, could be important work for the next six months.
7th house: first, a bit of grace; you’re feeling this the hardest right now. A relationship eclipse does not get more literal than when it happens in the house it rules. You’ve been in a relationship boot camp for the past year and a half. There have been good and great moments, and also a lot of growth edges. You’ve been collecting data on what it is that you actually want, desire, and need. You’ve been noticing what bothers you, and what you can no longer tolerate. At what point have you collected enough information? When is it time to shift from observation to action? Eclipses in your house of marriage can feel like a make or break moment for significant relationships, whether that’s with a romantic partner or the one you have with yourself. Themes of self-abandonment might be playing out right now, as well. You are allowed to change your mind at any time.
8th house: which relationships make you feel safer in stillness? Exactly as you are? Which relationships make you feel seen on your worst day? Conversely, which relationships keep you trapped in repetitive patterns and stagnant dynamics? Your relationships have a profound impact on your inner world. The quality of company you keep is directly related to your mental health and the degree that you are willing to challenge and transform your own patterns and behaviors. Examine if there are any relationships where you’ve been avoiding your true feelings through stagnancy. As scary as it might feel, how can you turn the lights back on over the next six months?
9th house: which relationships understand your big vision, and which ones struggle to grasp it? When it comes to your plans for the future, what you’d like to accomplish, where you’d like to go… you are not a solitary creature on this journey. Relationships can make you feel like the world is your oyster, or a fool for even trying. Over the next six months, how can you get more intentional about who you give access to your dreams? Who gets to know about your goals? Who is along for the journey, versus who is dead weight?
10th house: have relationships felt like work for a while now? If you have a cofounder or team, you could feel increasing pressure at work to address disharmony between corporate players. You might also feel pulled between options for your own career, confusion or indecision about what truly fulfills you or the “right” next step to take. Your sense of purpose is the relationship most heavily emphasized in your chart — it should be the main course, not an appetizer or side dish. You might need to reconfigure your personal relationships in order to prioritize your career, and it doesn’t mean one or the other… It just means stop making your purpose play second fiddle to your relationships.
11th house: your friend group has gone through a purge in the last year and a half, like a fan favorite TV show getting re-cast neck deep into season six. That might have been disorienting, or exhausting, if you’re trying to hold onto people you’ve clearly outgrown. If you’ve been the neutral friend, Switzerland, playing both sides, not wanting to pick a friend in the breakup… This is an important reminder that loyalty to everyone is loyalty to no one. It’s OK to cut people off, take a stand, and draw a line in the sand. Focus on integrating the way you want your friendships to feel over the next six months.
12th house: the quality of your relationships deeply affects your subconscious beliefs. If you’re having a lovers’ quarrel or friend breakup, you get premonitions in your dreams… it can be deeply draining when your relationships are up in the air. When we say “protect your peace,“ that’s the most true for you, because you adopt the tone of others into your inner monologue. You absorbthe beliefs of others, blending an unconscious amalgamation of everyone around you. You feel unstoppable with a partner who believes in you, vs. worthless with a partner who doesn’t. This is not a weakness, but we do need to point out that any relationships having a negative impact on your subconscious, are secretly backseat driving your life until they get dealt with.
Let me know in the comments if you’re stuck in a sunk cost fallacy right now. What change could you make before the end of the calendar year?
To the moon and back (pun intended),
Ocean
OMG Ocean. This hits home so hard for me. I have been working on relationships since the eclipse back in March 2024 when I went through a breakup and now with this eclipse I am considering all the people I have in my life if they are adding value to my life right now. 10 degrees Libra is in my 1st house and what you said is so true “invite this eclipse to reveal which relationships feel most supportive, and with whom you are required to keep up a façade”. This is exactly what I have been reflecting on for the past few weeks. I will keep reflecting on but I feel like I need to distance myself from some people and prioritize my needs and myself a bit more. Thank you for this reflection ❤️