Where you deserve to feel cherished

relationship goals based on the house of Venus

Forget love languages, I wanna know what house you have Venus in. Tell me how the goddess of love has decorated her room in your chart — the color of the walls, scent in the air, music she’s playing. Does she fling the windows open and sing to the birds, or is she curled up under a fuzzy blanket with the lights low? Most importantly, do you know how she spends her time? Does your partner know how to occupy this room with her?

You can think of the house of each planet as the area of life that brings comfort to that part of you. For example, the house of your Sun is the backdrop of your identity, while the house of your Moon is where you tend to process and emotionally prioritize — but what about Venus?

The house of Venus is where Cupid aims his arrow — where you want to feel cherished, seen, known, appreciated, and fully met without reservations.

This post focuses on romance, but Venus is also the prosperity goddess! Her associations include innate aesthetic, abundance, values, divine feminine, fertility, style, standards, and beyond.

You can locate the house of Venus by pulling up a chart on astro.com and finding the Venus symbol. ♀ Notice which section it falls into based on the ring of numbers at the center of the chart.

If you have Venus in the first house… you chase the physical high and embodiment of love. Tangible chemistry is important to you, first and foremost! You wear your heart on your sleeve, and while the initial honeymoon phase may provide excitement, you thrive best in relationships that match your candor and transparency. (Even in a more private sign, there’s nothing to hide in the first house. It’s a house made of glass!) People make you feel loved by honoring your independence, getting a little competitive to add spice, trying your favorite hot yoga class, and most importantly… Being hot and bothered for you 24/7!

If you have Venus in the second house… actions will always speak louder than words. You deserve the kind of love that shows up at your house with takeout from your favorite restaurant and a custom blend of perfume made just for you; a partner who instinctively pairs your dry humor with the base note of frankincense, who could pick out your laugh in a crowded room. You might be slow to open up, but once you know they share your values and goals, it feels safe to see a future together. You are a slow-burn girly through and through! It’s essential that they know who they are; you’re not one to stick around for wishy-washiness or lax morals… no matter how many boxes they check.